Am I Being Abused?

abuse is not always obvious

Am I Being Abused?

Sometimes, abuse is not so obvious. It starts as emotional and devolves into physical and sexual. Abuse can be financial as well.

Abuse can happen in ANY relationship, and can continue after the relationship ends. Abuse happens within all social classes, education levels, races, and religions. The first time I experienced domestic violence was after I had 2 Masters degrees.

From the National Domestic Violence Hotline website:

Does your partner:

  • Embarrass you with put-downs?
  • Look at you or act in ways that scare you?
  • Control what you do, who you see or talk to or where you go?
  • Stop you from seeing your friends or family members?
  • Take your money or Social Security check, make you ask for money or refuse to give you money?
  • Make all of the decisions?
  • Tell you that you’re a bad parent or threaten to take away or hurt your children?
  • Prevent you from working or attending school?
  • Act like the abuse is no big deal, it’s your fault, or even deny doing it?
  • Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets?
  • Intimidate you with guns, knives or other weapons?
  • Shove you, slap you, choke you, or hit you?
  • Force you to try and drop charges?
  • Threaten to commit suicide?
  • Threaten to kill you?

If so, get away! Go to your local police department ask for help with filing for an emergency Order of Protection. Getting a protection order is free. You will need to go to the family court division at your county courthouse. They will act as an advocate with you in front of the judge. Don’t suffer alone. Don’t make your kids suffer.

If you answered ‘yes’ to even one of these questions,
you may be in an abusive relationship.
For support and more information please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or at TTY 1-800-787-3224.